Why Not Try Pegging which is traditionally defined as penetrating the anus of someone who was born male with a strap-on. While this act has existed for many years, the term wasn’t coined until a contest hosted by Dan Savage in 2001. He asked viewers to come up with a term for the act. Apart from pegging, they suggested pegger, soft peg, hard peg, peg-ache, peggable, and so on.
Pegging is Power
People with penises can also use a strap-on, and people born without one can be on the receiving end. Sexuality and gender are complex things. There is one overall truth of the matter: pegging is power. It plays with gender roles in a way that previously didn’t exist. In some societies, it remains shrouded in the mist of taboos, which can increase the pleasure derived from it.
It’s not without its risks. A heterosexual man who’s new to it may feel vulnerable. The idea of it is one thing, but the reality can be quite another. It can bring up unanticipated feelings of embarrassment, violation, or even rage. In other words, it’s not for everyone. There may be a negative emotional reaction to reckon with.
Still, the power of controlling pleasure and pace is seductive; there’s no doubt about it. Pegging can be a satisfying and empowering experience for women.
What Does It Feel Like?
Those who like it say it’s amazing. The prostate is a highly erogenous zone, a conglomerate of pleasure nerves. Feeling stimulation in this area, especially something rubbing up against the prostate can be wonderful. There is a host of nerve endings around the sphincter, the anus, and the rectum, and the sensation of being filled and stretched can also be quite appealing.
Pegging doesn’t necessarily have to be about dominance and submission, but it can be used to bring that kind of play to people’s bedrooms. It’s a way to experience being the penetrator as someone without a penis. Some women even say they have had an orgasm this way, although the dildo is not part of their body. This can happen when you choose a dildo or strap-on that rubs against the clit.
Getting Started
To get started, you need a dildo with a strap-on harness. The base of the dildo is strapped into the harness. You must put a generous amount of lube on the dildo and inside the anus. Silicone-based lube is best because it lasts long. If the dildo is made of silicone, water-based lube is a better option. While lubricant isn’t the only option – coconut oil might work – you definitely shouldn’t rely on water or spit. The anus does not lubricate by itself, and pegging without lubrication can be painful in the best-case scenario.
Preventive Measures
Put some old sheets you were about to throw away on the bed, a cloth, or a towel. It might get messy just because that’s how ass play is. If it’s your first time, it might be a good idea to put a condom on the dildo.
Ideally, the person on the receiving end should use an enema. They are sold over the counter, and saline or water-based ones should be safe. Do not use an alcohol-based solution for cleaning by any means. It will hurt the delicate tissues in this part of the body, and they might even tear.
Another thing to consider is suppositories, more specifically ones that contain CBD. It is a natural substance that reduces discomfort without numbing the area. Don’t use anything to make yourself numb.
The act of Pegging
Do not forgo foreplay. Take at least 15 minutes to warm up. Begin with the smallest dildo size. The person on the giving end should put the dildo on ahead of time, not right before the act because you must make sure you know how to use it and that it fits well. Move around with the harness on, dance, squat, and shake it to get a feel of it.
The giver should lie on their back, and the receiver should ride it, so the latter has enough control to go at their own pace. You should communicate the whole time. The receiver must share how they feel, if they want to go slower or faster, shallower or deeper. The giver must ask these things if their partner is silent and also ask if staying in or moving in and out is better.
If It Hurts, Stop
Pain means the receiver has had enough, needs a break, or needs more lube. Pain is a sign that you’re not as calm and relaxed as you may think. Don’t force pegging to work. Do something different: try different positions or just cuddle.
Lesbian couples can try scissoring. As the term might suggest, it’s where the two women face each other and rub their parts, their legs moving much like a pair of scissors would. It’s energy-intensive, just like pegging.
Another unexpected effect of pegging can be exhaustion. In this thrusting motion, you use the glutes, lower back, hamstrings, and hips. It’s quite tiring if you’ve never done it before. If it’s too tiring, you can peg with different types of harnesses: thigh ones, hand ones, even boot ones. You’re sure to find the best option for your needs as you shop around, online or at local sex shops.
Final Thoughts
There are a lot of men who feel pegging would jeopardize their masculinity, but there are also many who get off on it. Tom Ford said in a now-legendary interview for GQ Magazine that every man should try it at least once in his life. Why? To understand how vulnerable and invasive sex can be for women.
We couldn’t agree more. We also want to add that every woman should try pegging her partner at least once in her life. It will help them (us) understand how tiring all that thrusting really is. Pegging can help people relate and feel for each other.